Celebrating LIFE!!

Yesterday was by no means a good day in our house. We received news from SA of the passing of someone who was very special to me when I was little. In fact, he filled the role of big brother in my life. Below is an extract from a post about some of the lessons he passed on when I was a child.

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The mind drifted back… I recalled a few people I’d met in my life. I also thought of myself as a child. Yes, I was prone to making excuses… usually trying to get out of trouble. Excuses and lies. I’ll add, I was very  fortunate, someone took me aside one day and explained the error of my ways. It was an adult and at the time I wondered how they could have any clue of what was going on in my head.

Now I know it was easy for them to spot a scared little boy who didn’t know how to deal correctly with guilt and angst. It was good that I admired that person. One of my role models, it so happened to be an uncle of mine, my mother’s youngest brother who wasn’t too many years older than me. He was willing to take the matter further. He wanted to teach me confidence. He wanted to help break the negative cycle I was developing. But he clearly told me it would be a difficult thing to do… in the beginning at least.

The first time I owned up was a terror filled moment. I don’t know why I was expecting to be obliterated or eradicated. Why? Surely no adult in their right mind would punish a child for making a mistake? OK… we all know that now but then… man, I was so scared I could have sworn my posterior was chewing at my longs!!

Enough said. It very soon became apparent to me that this was the way forward. Even in those dark ages back then adults knew that a child who didn’t try anything new didn’t make mistakes, or learn anything. Those self-same adults appreciated honesty, not lies and deceit. I think the simple reply to that first admission was something along the lines of…

“That’s OK, everyone makes mistakes… just try to learn from yours.”

What a massive, if somewhat relieving, soft letdown. NO clip about the ear, NO scolding, NO threats of grievous bodily harm, NO banishment to my room for days, NO food rations. NO nothing! Yes, I’m exaggerating tenfold but remember the visions of doom which swirl in little people’s heads!!

Life’s easy, forgiveness free. After learning the simple lesson of owning up and putting it into practice a few times my uncle pulled me aside.

“Just be wary of repeating mistakes… if you don’t learn and then expect to be let off the hook again and again you’re in for a big surprise!”

It took a while for my emboldened brain to work it out but in the end I did.

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I’ll leave you with a pic of our youngest granddaughter. Yes, in life we must support the living and celebrate the lives and lessons learned from our elders.

Who's there? Having fun with oupa!!

Being happy and striving for contentment works better if you’re firmly anchored in true belief!

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About aj vosse

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5 Responses to Celebrating LIFE!!

  1. sorry for your loss, AJ.

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  2. cocoaupnorth says:

    A beautiful tribute to your uncle. May you always hold on to these beautiful memories as you continue to celebrate life. Be well!

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  3. Christina B says:

    Sorry to hear about your loss. Celebrating life and beautiful memories will hopefully help you in this sad time.

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  4. de Wets Wild says:

    Jammer om van jou hartseer te hoor AJ. Ek bid dat God se vrede en liefde julle troos sal wees.

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  5. Lola says:

    Beautiful sentiment expressed and adorable picture of your granddaughter. Thank you for sharing this.

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